SarahThiZZle wrote: dangrsmind wrote:I'm personally having a bit of difficulty with this line of reasoning. How many people have an instance of marital infidelity in their family history? How many get dumped in a rude or even brutal fashion? People often are in these situations, and yet relatively few of them resort to deadly violence. What made this situation different for Sam? And in most cases of this sort of intimate violence which I've read about, the person makes a sudden rash decision rather than brooding for hours or days before acting. Something is missing in this story and has been from the beginning. IMO.
Ofcourse theres something missing. A lot is missing. I myself everyday watch the mailman go up and down the street till he gets to my door to see if Sammy wrote me back so I can get more info on whats going on. I have only recieved two letters. Very long ones but only two.
Im going to explain this a little better. My mom didn't just cheat on my dad once or twice. It has been going on since before we were born. My very first memory of my life is my mother taking Sammy and I to her boyfriends house. I was very very young but I still knew the difference between right and wrong and so did sammy. We watched her as she cheated on my loving father. And then she had left us for weeks. I had been the one to find out my mom was cheating every time....It was very hard. Sammy and I talked about it and knew before my dad did, until we finally told him.
Im not just talking about rumors or her sneakin in late. I mean pictures of her and other guys in her cell phone....dirty pictures. It had been YEARS of torment. Listening to my parents fight and being kept in our rooms to stay away from the all the hate. We were almost jailed to our corners of the house. My mother was a bitch and still is.
I couldnt even tell her I got married...I also have a restraining order against my mother thats good for myself, my husband, and my father. And sammy would be on there as well if he wasn't in this fucked up situation. Our family life was bad, and it was because of our mom. I tried telling my dad to leave her years and years ago! But he himself and my mother didnt know their real fathers so he wanted us to have both parents growing up.
Finally it was just toooo much so she moved out and started a really bad meth addiction.... Having our parents together all these years unhappy and fighting, and then divorce which led to use struggling because my mom was sucking my dad and his bank account dry, and then her going off the deep end.
It has been very hard. Sammy saw the beginning of it but I can say he is definitely lucky he isnt here now...I wont get too much into detail but My mom in a very drunken/high rage crashed her car and fought me in the street. She went to jail with bruises and the very next day I got married with cover up on my bruises from our fist fight and chunks of my hair missing.
This wasn't just a bad day...this was almost normal in our family.....does that help at all.
And to answer the other question...I never saw any of sammys girlfriends. I know he had one who was supposed to come stay with us for a week but I never saw her, and another one who lived in dublin or pleasenton out here that he went and stayed with here and there.
But I never saw her. I also was never home. Due to our family problems, I was always out doing my own thing. Does that help at all?